So often we find ourselves & see in others that we want to pass the buck on making decisions to others. Also we all have a tendency to bame others for our situations or circumstances. When you find yourself doing so, merely stop, take a step back & go inward. Take a moment & just breathe- release that negative thought & chose the opposite. There is no need to beat yourself up over it or become frustrated, even if it has been chronic. By letting go in this way we are gradually raising our awareness & our light...it will get easier. It's a marathon, ot a sprint
When you see it in another, also let it go - in forgiving & not judging that other person you are not adding to their moment of darkness nor are you pickingup the negative energy for yourself- let it go & let them find their own way. As the law of free will suggests, it is not for you to preach at them, but rather to let them come to you as they want help. Instead, fill yourself with divine light by calling on God, the angels, Source or whatever name you chose (of divine light & love) and send it to such people and into any situation that needs the light. Send divine light, not only your own, therby depleting your own energy, but rather use the inexhaustable divine light from Source. LOVE NEVER FAILS
I hope this has been helpful in your journey and eases your way !