Accepting What Is - a guest log by Jill MIchelle, the "Angel Lady"
“When you live in complete acceptance of what is, that is the end of all drama.” Eckhart Tolle
“I am a lover of what is, not because I am a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality.” Byron Katie.
Acceptingwhat is, creates harmony in your life. Non-acceptance of what is, creates pain in your life. Which one do you prefer?
Acceptance of what is, means that you fully accept that a situation is happening, or that a person is the way he or she is. More generally, you accept all aspects of your life as it is. Forgiveness is an act of acceptance. To accept is not to condone. These are two different concepts. Accepting the truth of what is, may be quite challenging. Acceptance comes from a soul-based personality. Finding the root fear of why you resist acceptance of what is, brings an understanding of and insight into the deeper issues that are contributing to the present situation. Once this root fear is released, the obstacle is overcome much more easily. Then you can move forward, infusing positive energy into the situation which can create a peaceful and harmonious solution. If an argument between two people surfaces and one person stops the negative energy input, the other person has no resistance to support his or her negative energy. The argument is arrested. Resolving the issue then becomes the focus. Similarly, surrendering the situation to your Higher Power releases resistance and dissolves the deadlock created by the negative energy. Then the situation changes for the better. There are many methods designed to uncover the reasons for resistance and to give understanding to the root issues. Awareness and understanding behaviour is key to changing it.
Often we are blind to our resistance of what is. Non-acceptance of what is, is the cause of most if not all emotional pain. When you go against what is, there is no peace or harmony. Non-acceptance breeds fear, judgment, control, anger, anxiety, panic, and other negative feelings behaviours and actions. Dwelling on unmet expectations is not accepting what is. Having expectations most often leads to disappointment. What is, is the Truth. Resisting what is, means you are being untrue to yourself and others therefore pain evolves. Trying to control a person or situation comes from ego/mind-based personalities. Sometimes this control emerges from wanting to protect loved ones from what we judge will be unpleasant experiences. Often these experiences are present to teach all who are involved lessons of great magnitude.
When complete and consistent acceptance for past present and future is accomplished, life is peaceful and harmonious. There is nothing that can ‘ruffle your feathers’. Instead of travelling on the emotional roller coaster of life, you will be floating on the calm waters of the Lake of Peace and Tranquility.
Have a great summer,
Love Peace Joy,
Been there, done that, not goin back! THERE IS A WAY OUT - GOD ALWAYS PROVIDES
Thanks goes out to Bell & the Let's talk program, to Michael Landsberg & others & especially to Clara Hughes!
The work that has been done & is being done to bring mental health to the forefront is incredible!
Their numbers indicate that one in five Canadians suffer with some degree of mental health, but think about it for one second, aren't we all ONE? Even in operating on a worldly/physical plane anybody can see, that truly we are all very much affected by each other - 20% of us is a lot, but that number is a very conservative (VERY LOW) estimate.
I've been there. I had severe depression for many many years (approx.30yrs), but thanks to Bryan Farnum, a spiritual healer in the Toronto area, it is "gone for good" ! Through the path of spiritual forgiveness from God, we can totally heal ourselves.
Depression hurts! Those who suffer really do suffer- it's often a very dark place to reside - one with seemingly no escape, no end, & NOTHING is any good, good enough, or uplifting for more than brief moments. Some are suicidal, & many certainly have such thoughts, but there is nobody that can help & nobody to talk to. Many wrongly assume, that 'this' existence is normal. For people suffering, & it occurs in various degrees, all of which hurt & are harmful, even the nicest of events somehow lose all of their lustre - the mind quickly offers up an endless banter of negative angles on the event.
Like attracts like, so these negative thoughts soon invite their friends & a tangled web soon ensues. This makes its harder & harder to escape. Lives around the person crumble & fail in a multitude of ways & that hurts & harms everybody close to them, & themselves all the more. As a spiritual seeker, you know that affects YOU too. The world hurts plus we are no reaping the benefits of all of those people acheiving their greatness & instead may be dealing with damage repair...
For many, & I don't put all the blame on the medical profession, who may trying their best with the limited understandings we have in science, drugs have become the mode of "dealing" with most of the issues & they may have their place to some degree in keeping somebody around long enough to help them... Psychology as well attempts to "talk it out" or get to their suspected root childhood issues, but it's somewhat in vain.
Do not brood over your past mistakes and failures as this will only fill your mind with grief, regret and depression. Do not repeat them in the future. Swami Sivananda
FORGIVENESS IS THE ONLY TRUE WAY OUT . I tried many solutions, & what Bryan Farnum directed me in as God's "way out" worked completely & I witnessed many others heal. He has helped 1000's in this way:
To understand this one must first understand & accept that we have had many lives! Actually lots & lots of incarnations as part of one eternal life. IF you are stuck on this point consider the possibility that it is true, but there is a "block" preventing you from believing it. If you are willing to continue on this path, that block can perhaps be removed & the doors to healing yourself can be flung open.
Secondly it takes great faith in God & you've got to have a seeking heart such that you have even landed upon this page to begin with... & you must want to be healed.
Understand it is a path & not a one-shot in & out deal. You must approach this with a sincere heart, understanding that it will take some work perhaps (though God can surprize you with miracles at ant time)
One needs to grasp the scope of having had "many lives". In Canada we are generally a country of old souls who've been around the block many times, but this could be true of anyone in the world reading this. Having had many lives, we could have had the opportunity to find ourselves in ANY situation,under any ruler or difficult situation, in any era, in a multitude of possible race, age, monetary situations as male or female. The possibilities are enormous, but certainly the more recent incarnations will have a bearing beyond a psychologist looking at only one's childhood traumas... open your mind to the possibilities!
Ok, now you see why this could take a while, but trust me, it will free you forever! If you have access to someone such as Bryan to direct you that has the ability to do past-life regression that's a wonderful blessing. However, most don't, & the fact that we've incurred so many issues over such a broad-reaching life should tell you, it's very much an on-going pathway to heal. So how can we make an immediate meaningful & LASTING impact? (NOT BANDAID SOLUTIONS!) Well consider this - your soul has been through it all, & knows exactly why it came here. God knows too- HE LOVES YOU & WANTS TO SEE YOU HEALED. It's a key point! Depression is a direct result of significant pain we carry from harms we believe we have done.
So ask God. Pray as sincerely as you can, asking God what you may have done to cause harm, be involved in the harm of another or something else that comes to you. Do this even three times or more, listening for the answers, feeling your feelings & especially paying attention to your thoughts. It's best attempted in a space of relaxation & quiet, perhaps with pen & paper at ready. TRUST GOD that whatever thoughts or messages that come to you are you answer. Anything is possible with God. It is often the case that those in your life were there at the time of your specific event & they may have been someone quite different, & now they are back in your life to heal with you. When you have a thought , just go with it no matter how ridculous it may seem & especially pay attention to how it makes you feel if you hit on something! Bingo! (Keep it to yourself)
Now to FORGIVE! Understand that this revelation is a gift from a loving God. Feeling & understanding what you may have done magnifies the sincerity with which you forgive others & yourself & thus its effectiveness.
It's important to understand the pain, suffering & collateral damage of your actions or you have not learned & gained anything! Then forgive the soul of the other for whatever you think you may have done. Ask their soul to forgive you. (you can do this all in prayer, not needing to be with the other, though that is better provided they will not think you are insane). You & this other quite likely have been going back & forth over numerous lifetimes harming each other - "eye-for-eye". Now, forgive yourself! Do it three times to ensure sincerity or it's not going to work. Ask God your Father to forgive you & to lift all traumas, energies, & spirits off you into/out of the universe doing harm to nobody. Be grateful for the healing accepting & believing it fully & ask that a white light be put around you, protecting you.
When we harm another we send energy which is considered a spirit to the other person or even to ourselves thereby reminding us of the harms we did. IT STAYS WITH US until we FORGIVE. As such you can understand why merely talking it out, drug regiments, simple releases & just trying to be positive alone is not nearly enough!!!!! That energy is still there in our minds- we call it the ego, little voices, suicidal thoughts in depression & so forth... It will be there incarnation after incarnation until you forgive.
What have you got to lose? What if this is true? What would life be like if you began to undue these harms & the baggage you've been carrying like a ball & chain! One or two "forgives" & your depression could begin to lift. A lifestyle of forgiving could free you radically. THEN this spiritual awakening & bliss that you read about can become your reality!
Here's another quick outline of Forgiveness 101:
This general/basic technique should become a part of your every day life until you are free & clear of any anger, resentment, anxiety, jealousy, fears etc not just to rid depression. THERE ARE MANY ITEMS FOR US ALL TO OVERCOME. This is a WONDERFUL basic technique from Bryan Farnum that has been clearing my own path & the journey for thousands like me. Some cases may require more extreme measures/pro help, but it primarily depends upon one's faith - "according to your faith it will be done"
This is a free gift of great LOVE from the Father for His precious children!
My horrible, dangerous & difficult, 30yr depression has been gone for approximately 7 years now as well as many other issues in my life - it is the reason Hartbridge.ca exists - my life has & is still changing...
Please try it & give God the appreciation
LOVE NEVER FAILS
Consciousness when it works together has unfathomable capabilities because it joins together with the infinite power of LOVE & the boundless wisdom of the universe.
When a single candle is lit inside a pitch black room the little flame can illuminate the darkness many many many times its own size. This further emphasizes the important of each individual bringing their light - each of us needs to be the light where God has placed us as well as "bringing it" to the collective good to help save the planet
In further to this good is the "ripple effect" or the "trickle down effect" & the "snowball effect" in that whatever good "ONE" does if has a snowball effect as one teaches or imparts wisdom & love to another through every kind of conveyance & example - as the next soul is positively effected for eternal good & another & another it picks up momentum... This is how the good we do right here & now can change the world as well as ANY situation - it's why we need each other; this band of growing like-minded brothers & sisters
God's word & his perfect LOVE never goes out from Him to return empty-handed. Love never fails.
WE can do anything! ...and we may call upon 100000 powerful Angels to aid us!
Have a wonderful day - I'll be praying for "ONE"of YOU
You have exactly what you need & are supposed to have right NOW.
There are NO accidents. YOU CAN DO IT! I CAN DO IT! WE CAN DO IT...
I've just been having one-of-those-days... I knowwwww I'm not alone - you know exactly what I'm talking about. And I'm lead to talk about it, because I'm not the only one & there are NO accidents... you are reading this & you know you're here for a reason...
I just been feeling quite flat, sore, discouraged & like I'm never good enough, talented enough etc
I'm feeling totally alone & vulnerable. I'm out of doe-re-me & when I look around at all the flashy videos, eloquently worded messages on the vast array of websites & other media out there, I certainly begin to think, "what the hell am I doing..." kinds of thoughts. NOW I KNOW, THIS IS RIGHT!
The harder our minds, your ego, the little negative voices in your head push, the more we've got to take the cue & hopefully to remind each other or to at least wake up our own consciousness to realize that we ARE on the right track. If we were not, our ego/minds would have nothing to say.
It doesn't matter who that voice is to you - it could be spirits of those you've clashed with, your own "small-you" voice, your parents or "the tribe" - it's negative & it's trying to stunt your growth
Why? Because it's afraid!
FEAR KNOCKED AT THE DOOR, FAITH ANSWERED, & NOBODY WAS THERE!
Every thought & its corresponding decision is always rooted in either FEAR or LOVE/truth/faith
One choice leads to same-old, same-old, never grow, never learn & most importantly never experience life. And that could be a life of helping another to escape their fear. Yet consider where LOVE itself IS ; God/the universe/source/ the very energy that created EVERYTHING IS love & love NEVER fails. Do you think fear ever wins? LOVE SAYS YOU CAN! Who are we to argue?
Fear says there's always better talent out there, there's not enough or you're not well enough equipped & you don't have enough money... & fear is only right IF you believe it.
FEAR can point out those you need to forgive in your current life & your past - this MUST include forgiving self!
God CANNOT lie. The TRUTH is there is abundance out there for all of us. Everything is divinely orchestrated into a perfect to second symphony of events & your offering will coincide precisely to do what it is supposed to do in your life & in the lives of those you touch. You will grow, you'll feel alive, you will learn priceless gifts of wisdom & so much more IF you will act on your faith. This generally doesn't mean force your will attempting to have power over, but to move forward in peace, gratitude & allowing... As in real estate, location location location, your actions as instructed by your intuition will guide you to reap benefits that will bring your heart increasing joy! As you repeat such processes your joy will multiply & multiply producing a character; a raised sense of awareness of truth & a greater sense of the real YOU - the unconquerable, boundless you, not the small, meek, discouraged you of the ego-spirit mnd...
For "those" days, change your perspective. STOP. About face -180! Do something else, take a break, & most importantly SHIFT. Gratitude is the most powerful tool in that department. Start small & take baby steps. You may find it's too hard to make a paradyme shift, so just go for the small movement it the right direction - inject some love, giving to others, do something fun, tune into some uplifting music, watch some videos... the possibilities are limitless. STOP & break the chain, then replace it with something more positive, then something else more positive & keep adding the "good"... Forgive yourself! Hey, you're human! Go easy on yourself too! You are not the lies in your head, you are not your ego or the quitter thoughts - the real YOU is the magnificent creation of God that waits patiently in your heart space to be noticed & chosen.
CHOSE TO BE HAPPY. CHOSE TO LOVE! CHOSE to go against the negativity with forgiven, & chose LIFE!
ONE AND ONLY YOU! You are created precisely for this moment! NOTHING CAN DO WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN CREATED TO DO!!! ONLY YOU - that's how GOD designed it
Lot's of folks
Its' the great UNKNOWN, & it can feel scary, but that's where we learn - GOD WILL NOT DROP US! He didn't bring us along this far to let us fall... He won't tell us what's in store, for we would miss everything else along the way, miss the many gifts, miss LIFE! ...TRUST YOU ARE LOVED!
Lot's of folks can make amazing apple pies, but nobody can make enough to go around & only you add the flavour & the love quite the way that ONLY YOU CAN!
I hope this helps! It helps me too. YOU help us. YOU will help the world!
Thanks for dropping by. Davo
I can't believe I'm doing this! I'm essentially an ordinary guy with no particular earth-shattering talent, I'm currently on my last few bucks & haven't any work lined up, my Mom is dying, I am without any family or friend support to do this thing & for the most part I don't know what I am going to do, where this is going, or how the heck I'll get there... but here I am, creating a whole new business , website & blog I'm putting out there for the world exposing my flops, failures, struggles & victories plus all that I've learned... because THAT is what my soul seems to be telling me to do!!!!
It's my 'Freedom 55' year, & I've been at this spiritual seeking for most of my adult life. I tried everything it seems & it was all good now that I'm looking back on it, but at the time I didn't always know it. It was very much a roller coaster & I learn a lot along the way- perhaps more elaboration is coming. It really came together dramatically in the last few months - things really started to gel. Since approxiamtely October 2014 I started to experience tremendous the peace of mind everyone seeks, & a happiness I would definitely call BLISS that people search there lives for! My heart was just beating out of my chest, couldn't explain it in words kind of gratitude, passion & love! It came & went a little, but overall it's been pretty much a constant. The bottom line is, it's AMAZING & I want MORE!
As I said, I've been around spirituality for a while now -roughly 25-30yrs in Christian churches, & perhaps around 10yrs spirituality. I learned a lot!!! I KNOW this: I have been guided -there are no accidents & there's meaning to everything. We've had lots of incarnations & those have implications as well as learning attached. I also know that the same is true for you. We are all connected & you have come to this site for a reason. Those reasons could be many; anything from planting a seed for your future to empowering your greatness to help the world! I know that if I want more of that good stuff, I've got to help others find the same! So that's the main intent - it's not about selling stuff, or teasing you with the latest "secret" it's about point the way to pure positive energy / GOD / "SOURCE"/ truth & genuine money & power can't buy-it HAPPINESS. We can only get there TOGETHER. It's an incredible mountain range ahead on this journey- this journey never ends & there are a LOT of climbers & hikers - we've got an incredible amount to see & experience as ONE ... You comin?